Let‘s Talk About Sex with Lynn and Jen
51. The Five Love Languages

51. The Five Love Languages

December 4, 2019

This week on LTAS, Lynn and Jen discuss how using the five love languages can help improve couples' communication with each other.

Here's a link to take the quiz to find out your love language:
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

50. Sexting and Revenge Porn

50. Sexting and Revenge Porn

November 19, 2019

In this episode, Lynn and Jen revisit their conversation around sexting as revenge porn has become more obtrusive.

Instead of shaming sexting, how do we promote consent in this new way of relating?

37. Spotlight on Sex: Women Leaders

37. Spotlight on Sex: Women Leaders

November 5, 2019

It's election day 2019!

Inspired by Elizabeth Warren's running for president in 2020, Lynn and Jen dive right into the challenges women in positions of power face in our patriarchal culture.

What are some of the challenges you have faced as a woman while in positions of power, whether that be at work, within your social circles, at home, etc.? Let us know!

Spotlight on Sex 35. Homelessness and Navigation Centers

Spotlight on Sex 35. Homelessness and Navigation Centers

October 22, 2019

In this spotlight episode, Lynn and Jen talk about the impacts of homelessness on individuals and their sexuality, and what we can do as a community to provide support.

Make sure to check in with your local navigation centers to see what you can do to help!

49. Erotic Transference

49. Erotic Transference

October 8, 2019

Have you ever felt a sense of love or longing towards your therapist and couldn't figure out why? Or have you wondered how it happens?

This week, Lynn and Jen talk about when a client develops loving feelings towards their therapist--in psychology, this is called erotic transference. We hope that with this episode, we can shed some light on what it is and keep the conversation going.

To find out more about, you can visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-therapy/201206/clients-guide-transference

Spotlight on Sex 34. What the Heck is Sugar Dating?

Spotlight on Sex 34. What the Heck is Sugar Dating?

September 24, 2019

After a recent session with a teen client telling Jen about sugar dating, Jen wondered, "What the heck is sugar dating?!" Turns out, this has been around: We've heard of "sugar daddies" and "sugar babies," and apparently this relationship is "sugar dating."

Are these relationships sexual? Are young people being exploited in these relationships? Or is it better to have explicit knowledge of these exchanges? Are these dynamics circumventing vulnerability? What about sugar mama's and how does this dynamic affect traditional gender norms?

48. The Cougar

48. The Cougar

September 10, 2019

As Lynn and Jen were discussing "sugar dating" and "sugar mama's," as some of you may have heard in our previous episode, it got us questioning the dynamics of older women and younger men who date. And often the women in these relationships are called "cougars." But unlike what is portrayed in the media, research shows that couples with this structure are in intimate, fulfilling relationships. In this same study, differences were found in how older women met their partners. They also note that as women age, mothers and grandmothers are seen as incompatible with having sexual desires.

Jen shares about being married to a younger man and Lynn shares how older women and younger men were more common in Canada.

Spotlight on Sex 36. Abuse? Is it so black and white?

Spotlight on Sex 36. Abuse? Is it so black and white?

August 20, 2019

This week on LTAS, Lynn and Jen take a deep dive into the complex dynamics of sex trafficking, breaking away from the idea of the roles of victim and perpetrator being mutually exclusive. This is how the media portrays abuse:

Jeffrey Epstein - "The Monster"

Ghislaine Maxwell - "The Accomplice"

Cyntoia Brown - "The Hero" (now)

We believe all three have suffered from abuse, but the difference is in how they choose to cope with their trauma.

47. Sexual Junctures and Learning “Gender Rules”

47. Sexual Junctures and Learning “Gender Rules”

August 6, 2019

"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else."

That's something a 13-year-old said to Jen in a session one day. It made her realize that quite a few young teens that she is working with want to engage in sex, but view it in a very nonchalant manner. This raised some questions: What sexual junctures do young people face when developing their sexual identity? What are the beliefs that shape the rules they are trying to follow? Why is sex ed. only teaching the mechanics of sex? What about the socioemotional piece?

These sexual junctures occur in childhood, teenhood, adulthood, and even in toddlers. Lynn shares the story of her grandson who has now decided that "Nana can't throw me the ball because she's a girl. Only boys can throw me the ball," even though she was the one who taught him how to play ball.

46. Max Landis - Abusive Patterns

46. Max Landis - Abusive Patterns

July 23, 2019

Sparked by an article in The Daily Beast, Lynn and Jen discuss patterns of abuse that seem so "normal" in our culture that many people get away with it. Often, the people who are being abused aren't consciously aware that what they have experienced is abuse, and a part of that relies upon predators grooming themselves long before they groom others. Those that do speak up, do so to protect other potential targets of abuse. It's not until the abused come together that they can see the patterns and realize it's not just them.

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